elizabeth avila
Do you think that you are in a healthy relationship? Or do you think that you are being controlled and impeded to move on? Half of the time people do not know that they are not in a healthy relationship. In fact, they notice it when the abuse starts happening. The smallest things you face in an everyday situation might seem normal for you but in reality they are not. Abuse isn't just shown in a physical way, it could be through verbally ,or emotionally. This type of abuse could lead people to have low-self esteem, or not enough confidence. It could also cause a series of depressions or mental illness ,or even an eating disorder. Here are some ways to know if you are being abused in a relationship ,or you are the one abusing your partner.

According to the article “Stop verbal abuse”, here are some signs that you are being abused by your partner, or that you are abusing them.


Are you being abused?

Does your boyfriend/girlfriend?
Are you abusive?

Do you ever?

  • Look at you or act in ways that scare you?

  • Act jealous or possessive?

  • Put you down or criticize you?

  • Try to control where you go, what you wear or what you do?

  • Text you excessively?

  • Blame you for the hurtful things they say and do?

  • Threaten to kill you or hurt you or themselves if you leave them?

  • Try to stop you from seeing or talking to friends and family?

  • Try to force you to have sex?

  • Do they hit, slap, push or kick you?

  • Tell you that you're not perfect?

  • Scream at you when you talk to the opposite gender?

  • Pull you when he thinks you're doing something wrong?

  • Hit you and then apologizes?

  • Tell you that he could easily move on?

  • Share your secrets with others?

  • Call your girlfriend/ boyfriend names?

  • Text or call them excessively and get upset when they don't respond?

  • Monitor their email or profile on a social networking site?

  • Feel you have a right or need to know where they are most of the time?

  • Get jealous or angry when they spend time with friends or family?

  • Get mad when you see them talking/laughing/ touching  the opposite gender?

  • Ask them to change their clothes or style of dress?

  • Get in their face during a disagreement?

  • Push,slap, or punch them for any reason?

  • Restrain them to keep them from leaving?

  • Use bad words to express yourself to them?

These are some ways to tell that you are being abused or that you are the abuser in a relationship. Ways to prevent this abuse would be to:

  • Reach out to an adult when something is off

  • Treat others how you want to be treated

  • Reach out to one of the PALS members from the school and talk to them about your problem

  • Reach out to these phone numbers : 1-800-799-7233 or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY)

  • Visit this website: http://www.thehotline.org/help/

There are many ways you could get help if this is occurring to you or if you need help to stop committing these cruel actions. Don’t hesitate to reach out for help. WE ARE HERE FOR YOU!

elizabeth avila, staff

Nov 29, 2017
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